Bullying is not your fault. It is always wrong and you do not have to put up with it.
Do not do or say anything in response to the bully. Stay calm and remove yourself from the situation wherever possible. If it is happening through your phone or the internet, keep a copy of the messages or images but do not reply or respond.
Keep a note or a diary of what is happening.
Be confident – you have done nothing to deserve this.
You could say ‘This is not funny. This is bullying. This is wrong.’
Think who can help you – young people or adults.
Seek help from other young people e.g. school might have a peer mentor or buddy scheme
Say to someone ‘Please would you watch what is happening here’ and ask them to help you report the incident.
Sometimes it can help to talk to someone outside of the situation. You could call Childline on 0800 1111.
Listen and reassure them that coming to you was the right thing to do:It may not be easy for a child to talk about being bullied so it is important to try to find out how they are feeling, what has happened, when and where. Though at this stage it is not so much about establishing a set of facts as encouraging, talking and listening.
Assure them that the bullying is not their fault and that you are there to support them: remind them that they can also have the support of family and friends.
Find out what the child or young person wants to happen:help them to identify the choices available to them and the potential next steps to take; and the skills they may have to help solve the problems.
Discuss the situation with your child’s school: the law requires all schools to have a behaviour policy which sets out the measures that will be taken to encourage good behaviour and respect for others and to prevent all forms of bullying among pupils.Parents can get advice and support from the Family Lives Parentline on 0808 800 2222 or at www.familylives.org.uk.
The research shows that more than a quarter of
11-16 year olds (27.3 %) have quit an activity they enjoy because of
bullying, and almost half (49.5%) have played down a talent for fear of
being bullied – rising to 53% amongst girls.
Despite the popularity of programmes like X-Factor, and Great Britain’s
achievements in the 2012 Olympics and Paralympics, many children are
scared to excel with 11% having stopped singing, 8% drama and 9%
dancing. 8% have even quit sport for fear of being bullied.
Achievement in crucial academic subjects is also being stifled with 1 in
10 (12%) children saying they have played down their ability in
science. Maths is also taking a hit, with almost 1 in 5 girls (18.8%)
and more than 1 in 10 boys (11.4%) deliberately underachieving to evade
Nearly half of the performers who took part in Autism got Talent this year have been in bullied in school or within the Community and turned to Performing Arts to help them get through their awful experiences.
We at Anna Kennedy Online are looking for talented children and adults with an autism spectrum condition to partcipate in next years show on May 11th 2013 at Mermaid Theatre London. Please contact Lisa Robins for further information on 01895 619734 or firstname.lastname@example.org
Kennedy from Hillingdon was at Buckingham Palace to receive an OBE from
the Queen for her campaigning work to help children and adults with autism for over 15 years.
When she couldn’t get school places for her two sons in 1999, she set up
Hillingdon Manor School, a specialist primary for children with
autistic spectrum disorders. Since then, she’s won a host of awards and
has written a book about her struggle to get a good education for her
Please see link for further information and on how Anna received an invitation from a Hollywood Starlet
A number of our great supporters and followers will be aware of a ‘situation’ we have been dealing with this week. Hopefully the following will explain a little of what has been going on.