What is bullying?

What can we do about it?

Bullying is HUGELY on the rise, amongst young people in particular , especially since Covid.

Cyber bullying has become a significant part of that .

So much increased time on screens and the enforced of human contact have a definite part to play in this as figures have SOARED in the last couple of years.

Last week I touched on a little of the horrific cyberbullying I recently endured, but the number of young people who are filling my sessions at the moment are full of the most hurtful, humiliating, damaging stories of their own . Being bullied as a child is even scarier, and as a neurodivergent child almost impossible to navigate .

Victims are often too terrified to speak out for fear of further retribution .

Yet as adults we really do need to be aware and schools need to have firm anti bullying policies and be made to walk their talk in seeing them through .

• Keep a timeline and diary of every single act of bullying .
• If the school don’t act or make you feel like you’ve got to move your child away, take it to the governors .
• If this doesn’t work take it to the police.

In England and Wales you can receive a criminal record from the age of 10.

In some states of America it is from the age of 7.

Bullying is any or all of the following :

1. Calling names or teasing.
2. Being put down or humiliated.
3. Being threatened or intimidated.
4. Being kicked, hit of physically hurt.
5. Spreading rumours or using degrading/humiliating photos or information with the intent to harm. Spreading harmful stories.
6. Trying to control or manipulate someone
7. Setting up fake online profiles to stalk and/or harass.
8. Taking away/messing about with someone’s money or possessions .
9. Following/stalking someone.
10. Ignoring someone of leaving them out.
11. Making fun of someone.

Remember that cyber bullying is even easier to gain evidence for and the police have a duty to act.

All you need are 2 examples of harassment, stalking or the posting of malicious/untrue rumours or lies or using blackmail… and everything is retrievable even if the bully deletes it .

High Tech Police Units can retrieve it all.

As I say in this week’s YouTube video, a bully is someone who sees the potential in you which you can’t see”.

Walking away from/turning a blind eye is as bad as condoning it.

Filming it on your phone to circulate it makes you even worse .

Just remember that we are all human beings with stories and journeys inside us.

I will leave you with this ; they are all people I personally know or know of …

“The boy you punched in the hall today. He committed suicide a few minutes ago.

The boy you called lame has to work every night to supper his family.

The girl you pushed down the stairs the other day is already being abused at home.

The girl you called fat. She is starving herself.

The old man you made fun of because of his ugly scars. He fought for our country.

The boy you made fun of for crying. his mother is dying.”

Bullying will not suddenly end on Sunday.

Bullying is 365 days a year, and for many victims a loving purgatory which can lead go self-harm, severe depression and even suicide in later life.

Do you really want that on your conscience?

We need more awareness, more kindness, more humanity.

Let’s take that strong message away from this week if nothing else.

Take care everyone, Lots of love, Giuliana xx

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Cyber bullying is massively on the rise and very prevalent in our society now, particularly since Covid.

It is now estimated that a huge 42% of young people aged 25 and under are, or have recently been, cyber bullied.

Before I begin giving you strategies to help you protect yourself if this is happening to you or someone you love , I would first like to thank you all with every part of me for having been so patient whilst I have been “away”.

I have recently been a victim of cyber bullying and trolling myself.

The effect on my work but also my mental health has been immense .

During this time I have also been completely inundated with emails and client sessions where people are being cyber bullied.

It is rife.

It is horrific if you are neurotypical but even harder to navigate if you are autistic/ neurodivergent.

So, I feel I have been given this painful chapter to walk as a learning …

And this learning I now want to share with you so that you know what to do of this ever happens to you , and to know that this very cowardly form of bullying is not only unacceptable but carries consequences within the law .

Incredibly there is no law directly relating to cyber bullying within the UK.

However the one enormous benefit of cyber bullying is that absolutely everything, even if the perpetrator deletes it, leaves a digital footprint.

This makes evidence for the police much easier to pursue than verbal or face to face bullying .

As I explain in this week’s video, Cyber Bullying includes trolling , setting up fake profiles (cyber fraud ), stalking , harassment , deliberately sharing threatening of harmful messages/information, maliciously attacking or harassing someone, or “baiting online “ (using the internet to deliberately provoke get a rise out of others)

It also includes “mounting a full on hateful attack that wreaks havoc on your mental health “.

And these offences ARE punishable by laws.

So how can you keep yourself or your child safe?

Firstly, keep a timeline of each event including screenshot evidence.

The police only need TWO pieces of evidence to open a case.

If someone is using a fake email address or fake Facebook profile, this comes under Cyber Fraud as well as stalking and harassment, which ARE punishable within UK laws.

There are now new trolling laws in place due to the virulent rise in this offence.

There are also other laws to protect you and within which the police have a duty to act.

The Malicious Communications Act of 1988 and the Communications Act of 2003. Offences under this act carry a prison sentence of up to 6 months , a fine of up to £5000 , or both.

“It is an offence for any person to send or post a communication that is indecent or offensive for the purpose of causing distress or anxiety to another.”

The Act also includes “threats and information which is false and known to be false by the sender of this communication.”

Criminal offences have been added to the Online Safety Bill too for those who deliberately share threatening or harmful messages / information/posts . This carries up to 5 years imprisonment.

Protection from Harassment Act 1997

“It is a criminal offence for a person to pursue a code of conduct which amounts to the harassment of another with the intention of causing harm or distress on at least two occasions.”

Section 4 of this Act “provides greater punishment to those found guilty of causing another person to fear on at least two occasions.”

So please, do not feel alone.

Bullying can be incredibly frightening and isolating.

But there are laws to protect you and there are things you can do to ensure your safety and to limit the long term impact on your mental health .

So please take everyone and please know that you are never on your own.

Lots of love, Giuliana

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