Anna Kennedy Online – Autism Awareness Charity



Our day to day emotional state is a direct communication of how we are feeling mentally.

Particularly for those of us who are neurodiverse, this emotional communication is even more important to listen to due to all the masking, autistic hangovers, burnout and eventually complete shut downs as a result of trying to “appear normal”.



The lack of true awareness and education surrounding neurodivergence only emphasises and supports the chronic lack of support and understanding.

Our emotions are signals to us ; our bodies bringing our attention to something, often letting us know when something within ourselves is out of kilter.

Stress means we need to slow down and apply some self care. Not always easy in this fast paced world, I know.

Anxiety means you’re not feeling safe and need calm and grounding.

Anger and frustration can often be tiredness, overwhelm, a result of masking for too long.


Not feeling bothered or having enough energy for personal care, self isolating from those who love you, falling behind with things, a negative change in your sleep pattern, or a lack of passion for things you normally enjoy are strong symptoms of depression.

If you are isolating, not responding to family of friends, struggling to get out of bed, feeling less patient or more irritable, feeling overwhelmed or on edge, living in clutter or mess and have stopped doing the things that keep you mentally healthy, you could well be suffering from mental health illness.

Taking some time for you is so important.



Whether it’s a simple 5 minute daily yoga routine, self massage/self soothing, journaling, exercising, meditating ( including listening to guided visualisations which can be accessed freely on apps like YouTube, reducing your social media intake, spending time in nature or simply reading a chapter of a book will all help.

A good diet and exercising/ moving your body is also invaluable.

Here are a few ideas and therapies you can use daily to regulate and boost your emotions and mental health.

Daily routines


Yoga for sleep


Self massage/self soothing routine


Meditation to release anxiety

I hope that some of these ideas will help you all stay on top of those emotions and nourish your mental health in these busy and uncertain times we live in.

See you next week !

Lots of love,

Giuliana xx





Anxiety is at an all time peak . Suffering from long term or persistent anxiety is a silent & vicious disability that is effecting so many of us now. This is often heightened during times of transition, especially the return to school.

Left untreated anxiety can often have extremely serious & even fatal effects. Currently the UK has the highest suicide rate in the world, particularly among our young people & self harm has increased by a staggering 68% in the last 5 years

There is a world of difference between moments of anxiety & suffering with anxiety.

Anxiety is truly disabling & panic attacks paralysing.

Feeling anxious all the time impedes life & living fully. It’s truly horrible.



It’s really important that we check in with ourselves & our children on how exactly we are feeling each day & where we are feeling this in our bodies.

Non verbal children can eye point or finger point to the charts I’ve included here.

Rather than ask “How was school today ?”, why not ask how you or your children have felt today. Were they sad or worried at any point, or happy or excited. Were they lonely or upset & most importantly why? Where did they feel it inside their bodies and what can we do to get the positive happy and coping chemicals flowing again ?



Taking care of our mental health is paramount. If we don’t take care of our mental health, everything else will spiral, often leaving you mentally & even physically ill.

Self care & being in touch with ourselves & others couldn’t carry a greater value.

Here are some easily accessible ideas for self care that you can do by yourself or with your family or even classrooms for 5 minute rest/movement breaks during lessons if you are a teacher.



Productivity, motivation & learning will be massively boosted along with all that gorgeous serotonin, dopamine, endorphins & oxytocin.

If you think of the well known saying “An Apple a day keeps the doctor away”, even if you choose just one exercise of activity from the enclosed self care charts, that one activity daily will help you to take charge of your mental health.

Wishing you all a very happy week,

Lots of love,




The Return to School and our Daily D.O.S.E – Giuliana Wheater

Embrace Your Daily D.O.S.E 


As we all begin a new academic  year we may have many conflicting emotions,

thoughts and anxieties.


For those of us whose children are neurodiverse in a mainstream world anyway, it can be a daunting transition.


So, here is the first massive sunbeam of light to help us all find our way through.


Whatever lies ahead as we move forwards, YOU GROW YOUR OWN BRAINS! 



Yes, it’s absolutely true!


Brains stop growing physically at around the age of 18 … but what we do with the grey matter inside them is under our control throughout our whole lives!


In other words, WE can define US! 


We can grow or shrink grey matter around our amygdala/ emotional brain (sometimes called ‘the fear centre’) and we can grow or shrink it around the hippocampus (memory and learning) and our frontal lobe which contains all those higher executive shiny brain functions.



If we are stressed for prolonged periods, or in flight or fight, the grey area around the emotional brain grows and it shrinks around the other areas causing learning and judgment to be compromised.


But we can turn this around? Yes! 


“How?”, I hear you cry!


Well it’s all about getting your daily D.O.S.E – your “happy and coping chemicals”.



Let me explain…


– Dopamine is the neurotransmitter of reward, focus, attention, concentration and motivation.

O – Oxytocin is the neurotransmitter of love, nurture which stimulates emotional intelligence. We start flooding with it within 20 seconds of touch.

S – Serotonin the neurotransmitter of happiness , confidence and self-esteem. And never has this been so needed!

AND if you make enough serotonin you then have enough to make Melatonin the neurotransmitter of sleep, mood and aggressio!

E – Endorphins the neurotransmitter of pain relief and that euphoric feeling of well-being .


And that’s not all..


Did you know that memory isn’t just carried inside your brains? We carry the day to day memory of how and who we are in our water (young children are made of 90% water and this drops to about 75% during adolescence) and it’s carried in every single one of our 37.2 TRILLION CELLS!


Touch, mindfulness, massage, acupressure, reflexology, yoga, mindfulness and meditation all HUGELY boost the positive memories we carry, that positive way of “being”.


Play therapy and any Positive Growth Mindset games /activities do the same.


The key is to meet the child where THEY are at and not where you want them to be. 


By feeling invited, by knowing they can change the insides of their brains (and yes, I share it with them all, however young), guess what happens next ?!…




As Rick Hanson PhD proved, “What fires the brain wires the brain. Every day our MINDS are building our brains”.


In other words, what we tell our children is what they become.  

And what we tell ourselves, is what WE become.  


In a relaxed and playful state, a child only needs to receive the same positive message 4-6x for a new neurological pathway to be formed !

Touch is key to this.


How can I utter this as we transition out of a pandemic? Because touch boosts immunity! And we can self-massage too which can lead to self-awareness, self- management and better self-regulation which leads to more empowerment!

Since the controversial experiments on monkeys by Harry Harlow in the 1950/60’s to the present day leaders in the field such as Darlene Francis, Michael Meaden and Tiffany Field, touch has been proven to ease stress, boost resilience, build bigger brains, better physical health, significantly higher levels of emotional and social intelligence as well as better trust and bonding.

Tiffany Field also carried this research into yoga and proved how breathing and the poses push up the dopamine and serotonin from the gut (90% of our serotonin is made in the gut).

Our gut or second/enteric brain carries so much dopamine and serotonin it could actually run as an independent nervous system. It is also the seat of meltdown, so it is a win-win!

Yoga can also improve breathing, perspective, sleep, self-awareness, focus , attention, positivity and calm.

Meditation and mindfulness MASSIVELY stimulate our 37.2 trillion cells on a subconscious level, dropping our busy heart rates down to the ideal theta level, promoting clear thinking, deep sleep, wellness, perspective, attention, resilience and productivity.


Everything we need is inside us already. We are deliciously complete, perfect and exquisite jigsaws! 


Our MINDS build our brains, not the other way around. It’s called Neuro (brain) Plasticity (being bendy).





Written by Giuliana Wheater


Author of ‘Indian Head Massage for Special Needs’, multi-award winning therapist , Wellbeing Charity Ambassador for AnnaKennedyOnline and autism Mum

Not giving up –  A Message on Bullying and Autism

Not giving up – A Message on Bullying and Autism

When Anna asked me to write a blog for her website it really made my day.

All my life I have been bullied and now I am being bullied online as well.

I love helping people, it’s a huge passion of mine – I am autistic and struggle with communication and social interaction but I always try my hardest. I connect with Anna Kennedy on social media and I enjoy helping her share all things related to her charity and the different things I love and support. I do this because I enjoy spending time helping share the word to reach more people and raise awareness about topics close to my heart such as autism.

Over last 3 months people being unkind to me – I feel pressured, used and hurt. I didn’t realise doing a good thing could turn into something awful. Even though I can mute and block people – people seem to still be able to sign up using a different name. There doesn’t seem to be any barriers to stop this and it’s not nice.

I’ve had to come off social media because I’m very anxious and scared, it’s affecting my mental health along with made me feel terrible that I’ve let people down, the people who are kind and appreciate my help and support. I do want to be brave and not let these people get to me but it’s not easy.

I feel bad for anyone in same or similar situation to me. I wish I could do something to make social media easier, more positive and a better experience for everybody with or without autism. Technology and software is always changing so l’m sure there is a solution. I haven’t found it yet but I’m not giving up.

Thank you

– Anonymous

Mental health awareness week – Paul Isaacs

Mental health awareness week – Paul Isaacs

Mental health awareness week – an article by Paul Isaacs 

Mechanisms Of Mental Health

Mental health is something that can and does change over time, the world moves on regardless and so do you.

Sometimes this is not the internal feeling however this can be influenced by many different, nuanced, person centred and often inter linking factors.

  • Core beliefs (warped worldviews vs. connected authentic outlooks)
  • Self-Reflection (the ability to manage your own selfhood)
  • Information Processing (the way in which the brain filters information)
  • Nervous System Responses (many mental health conditions mean the nervous system is overused)
  • Emotional Regulation (the ability to recognise, filter and mange yours and others emotional frequencies)
  • Environment (caregiving, educational & community)
  • Attachment, Friendship & Relationship Dynamics (poor boundaries, emotional incest, projection & manipulative behaviours)

Everything Is Linked 

These factors (in various guises, degrees, and presentations) will have an impact on someone’s idea of “self”, personal expectations vs. connected one’s, perception of danger and threat, how one internalises their own emotions and healthy spaces for expressing and objective reasoning, boundaries, and healthy modelling of friendships and relationships.

Paul Isaacs 2023

Kieron Lee talks New Single ‘M&M’

Kieron Lee talks New Single ‘M&M’

M&M is the most challenging song I have ever had to write. I was in the worst place. It’s about being used and taken advantage of, It’s about being in a position you never thought you would be in, and then suddenly, everything else around me began to fall apart; I fell apart. It felt like the world had ended. All that kept running through my head was, could I possibly hurt anymore? I’ve struggled with anxiety and depression most of my life; on top of autism and ADHD, the world is so overwhelming, and I often feel like everyone is out to get me, and when I fall apart, it’s mum that sheds her light, warmth and love. My mum is my rock, my world, and the woman I live and breathe for. She gives me the determination and strength to fight when I feel I have none. The one who showed me that my powers and gifts of being autistic are extraordinary, who dedicated her life (and still does EVERY DAY) to raise, fight and protect me—my best friend. What could hurt more? Living in a world without a mum that would. That would END everything for me. I couldn’t imagine a world without her, where would I be? She’s my number one. I don’t need to be loved by anyone else because mum will always love me.


M&M was released on mum’s birthday, 12th February 2023 and is available for download & purchase on iTunes & Amazon, where a portion of the proceeds will be donated to Anna Kennedy Online. The song is available on all major streaming platforms, including Spotify & Apple Music.


Kieron Lee’s clothing line of ACRONYMS is available through Born Anxious and donating to Anna Kennedy Online on each purchase.


Spotify – Kieron Lee

Kieron Lee – iTunes & Apple Music

Kieron Lee – Amazon


Follow Kieron’s upcoming album release and journey on: – Kieron Lee official website


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