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NO to Bullying – YOU define YOU, by Giuliana Wheater

NO to Bullying – YOU define YOU, by Giuliana Wheater

NO to Bullying – YOU define YOU 

An article by our Well-being Ambassador Giuliana Wheater and her video!

I am writing to you all this week because more recently I have literally been inundated with emails and messages about bullying. Many of these stories have broken my heart and one in particular over the weekend had me in tears.

A certain little lad in America has been so badly bullied that he has become terrifyingly anorexic to the point that he is in a Hospital for Sick Children.

He has missed years of school and yet the bullies still continue to torture him by sharing memes of him which they call “Stick Man”.

This little boy now continually tries to pull out the drip that is the only thing keeping him alive.

I have tracked him down and am gifting him weekly Zoom sessions with me because I cannot stand by and watch another beautiful light go out.

Key to all this is that bullies, whether they be at home, school or the workplace are acting OUTSIDE of the law.

They will also have their own back stories … why are they bullies in the first place?

Yes, we need to act within the law and remind those who break it that it is not ok, and they need to be stopped … but fear of retribution will often prevent victims from speaking up.

Meeting aggression with aggression does not always work.

The bullies themselves need to do work on themselves as well as the victims. Or the cycle will just keep repeating and will become more vicious.

So, in today’s YouTube video I have shared some more ways to build POSITIVE NEUROLOGICAL PATHWAYS inside your brains and how to shrink the grey matter around the fear centre of the brain and grow it around your higher brain functions which are things like perspective, good judgment, seeing consequences and gaining focus.

What I have shared today also boosts ALL of your happy and coping neurotransmitters by employing Positive Growth Mindset activities and mindfulness.

Here are a couple of laws which you might also find useful if you are faced with a school that is turning a blind eye to bullying.

  • The Anti Bullying Act of 2013 “All elementary and secondary schools shall provide students and their parents/carers with a copy of the anti-bullying policies being adopted by the school.
  • Republic Act No 10627: An Act requiring ALL secondary and elemental schools to adopt policies to PREVENT and ADDRESS the acts of bullying in their institution.

Right now, as you are reading these 160,000 kids a day skip school to avoid bullies.

And teens aged 13-17 are all bullied ONLINE at some point.

BULLYING HAS A PROVEN LIFELONG IMPACT.

So, take all that muck the bullies try to fill you with about yourself and turn that muck to compost.

YOU define YOU and you will RISE!!!!

Please check out some of my other videos on other methods you can use to make this happen. There is so much you can do to take back charge of beautiful, strong YOU!!!!

See you next week,

Giuliana

https://www.therapiesforspecialneeds.co.uk/

Well-being Charity Ambassador for Anna Kennedy Online Learning Destination with the Children’s University

Centre of Excellence

Multi award winning therapist

Author, advocate, public speaker

NO to Bullying - YOU define YOU

NO to Bullying – YOU define YOU, by Giuliana Wheater

Touch for Bullying and Anxiety by Giuliana Wheater

Touch for Bullying and Anxiety

An article by our Well-being Ambassador Giuliana Wheater and her video!

Therapeutic touch and massage to MASSIVELY alleviate anxiety and stress.

The tips shared in this week’s video can be shared between friends and family, as part of your therapies if you are a registered therapist or as tools to self-administer and get your inner red carpets strong and flowing again!

It is all about Empowerment!!

Take your worries in hand – LITERALLY – and fill your bodies and brains with the four main happy hormones and coping chemicals to stay on top of what is going on in your life.

The simple power of touch not only boosts physical immunity – but emotional and mental intelligence and RESILIENCE!!

Touch also fills you again with the self-esteem and confidence you may be depleted in, as well as bringing clarity of thought, good judgment, and the deep nurture and repair your physical bodies and inner selves so badly need.

You have got this!!

There are so many ways to process and grow through whatever it is you are experiencing.

It will not last forever and remember that even when you do not feel like talking about it, you can always literally take the upper hand.

See you next week! Big hugs (now we are allowed them – hooray !!) Giuliana 
https://www.therapiesforspecialneeds.co.uk/

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NO to Bullying – YOU define YOU, by Giuliana Wheater

BULLYING: How to take control by using our SUPERPOWERS! by Giuliana Wheater

BULLYING: How to take control by using our SUPERPOWERS!

An article by our Well-being Ambassador Giuliana Wheater and her video!

Bullying is never acceptable whether it is emotional, mental, psychological, or physical.

Feeling sad, hurt, frightened, squashed, bewildered or angry are all part of the feelings you may be experiencing if you are being bullied.

It can have a long-lasting influence well into adulthood … so let us turn that into a POSITIVE impact!!

If a child or young adult is finding it hard to talk about, you can make games using superhero yoga poses, superpower breathwork techniques and powerful touch.

We have everything we need inside of us!!

I have enclosed some ideas and photos which you can just download and print, to accompany this week’s video and you can even look on the internet for downloadable yoga and breathing exercises.

Then it is Playtime!!!!!

And often with hilarious results!!

Encourage your child to rename their favourite techniques so that they can express what they feel and what they would like to do their bullies so that they can process and manage their emotions and responses.

Even if they are angry things, that is good … it is ok to be angry – and turn it into laughter.

You will find that your young person will naturally open and begin to talk, within you even needing to probe or question. It puts them in charge which in itself is incredibly empowering and floods them with serotonin and oxytocin.

Even if they do not talk at first, or are non-verbal, the happy hormones and coping chemicals will be partying around their bodies and brains and working through those negative emotions.

It is so empowering and even laughter will immediately increase the serotonin (the neurotransmitter of SELF ESTEEM, CONFIDENCE & HAPPINESS) by 16%!!!!

How amazing is that??!!

You might think that I am a bit of a crazy lady at times, but laughter has got me through so much in my own extraordinary life and there are some incredibly powerful, neuroscientific things happening ALL THE TIME when you “work” in this way.

I absolutely LOVE my job! ❤️?‍♂️

See you next week, take care everyone! Giuliana

https://www.therapiesforspecialneeds.co.uk/

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Mental Health Week – an article by Detective Chief Inspector Dion Brown

Mental Health Week – an article by Detective Chief Inspector Dion Brown

Mental Health Week – an article by Detective Chief Inspector Dion Brown  

Detective Chief Inspector Dion Brown talks about the importance of looking after your mental health at work and at home. 

This week is the perfect opportunity to take time to reflect on how we take care of our own mental wellbeing and the importance of doing so.

I am a father of five and two of my children have autism. I am also a Detective Chief Inspector with the Metropolitan Police. Through my work and personal life I have seen on numerous occasions the significant  impact mental health challenges can have on individuals, families, friends and colleagues. In years gone by mental wellbeing has been a topic that people have been keen to avoid speaking about, which only compounds the issue.

Although as a society we still have some way to go, it is important to recognise the progress that has been made. In my view, there has never been better awareness and understanding of mental health as there is today, which can only be a good thing.

I recently completed a Mental Health First Aider course through work, and it really made it clear to me how important it is to look after your own mental wellbeing in order to be able to effectively support others who may be struggling.

Balancing work and family life can be tricky at the best of times for most of us, when you throw in raising a child who demonstrates challenging behaviour on top of this, it can have a really detrimental effect on the atmosphere within the home and the mental wellbeing of us all. It can lead to feelings of isolation, dread of going anywhere socially and cause a reduction in your friendship circle.

You quickly discover who your ‘real’ friends are. However, getting to know others who are in a similar situation to yourselves and understand the challenges and feelings this brings is hugely beneficial. In relation to friends, as with many things, I would take quality over quantity every day of the week!

I work full time and the nature of my job means it can be stressful at times. My wife Sara has been on a five year career break and has recently made the decision to resign to focus on raising the children.

Without having Sara at home, there is no way I would be able to do what I do and provide the necessary care and support to our children. With this in mind, I am very aware of how isolating this can be for Sara in terms of not having the break away from home and interaction with colleagues that employment brings.

It is therefore vitally important that we make some time for a break from it all, to do something for yourself, even if this is for a very short period of time. For example, my wife will go for a long walk with a friend every Thursday evening, this has become part of the weekly routine and gives her that much needed time out of the house where she can enjoy some adult company without the interruptions and distractions from the children.

I like to make some time to exercise and really appreciate how much better I feel after doing it, not only physically but mentally too. This coupled with watching football are how I like to make time for myself, although how I feel after watching football very much depends on how my team have done! In addition to this, the area of the Met Police that I work in, rub wellbeing sessions every Thursday afternoon.

These sessions are very well attended and benefit from having a number of guest speakers sharing their own stories of challenges around mental wellbeing and some of the strategies that have helped them and others. It is also a safe space to discuss how you are feeling and offer and receive support from colleagues.

I would also like to highlight here that the Metropolitan Police have been very supportive of me and assisted me in maintaining a good work / life balance by allowing me to work a flexible shift pattern which allows me to have every Wednesday off. This is something that I continue to be grateful of.

The impact of Covid-19 on the mental wellbeing has been significant for some. Having restrictions on who you can see and where you can go can be difficult and lead to feelings of isolation. However, I am also eager to focus on some of the positives that have come about as a result of the pandemic.

For example, I have spent much less time commuting for work and as a consequence have been able to spend much more time with Sara and the children than I would have otherwise been able to. I have also heard from those who find social situations challenging, that feel the restrictions of Covid-19 and the reduction in contact with others has helped to ease their anxiety. As ever, I always try to look at the glass as being half full.

Thanks for reading. Best Wishes – Dion Brown

Mental Health Week – How To Improve Your Mental Health

Mental Health Week – How To Improve Your Mental Health

Mental Health Week – How To Improve Your Mental Health an article by our Ambassador Siena Castellon 

Our mental health and well-being depend on our ability to manage our thoughts, regulate our emotions, and control our behaviour. Of course, this is much easier said than done. At some point in our lives, every one of us will struggle with our mental health. One of the ways to improve your mental health is to recognize and challenge your thinking errors.

Thinking errors are unhealthy thinking patterns that are twisted, distorted, or false. In other words, these distorted thoughts are your mind convincing you to believe negative things about yourself and your world that are not necessarily true.

Since our thoughts greatly influence how we feel and how we behave, listening to and believing in distorted thoughts can significantly impact our emotions, behaviours, and views. By learning to recognize and manage your thinking errors, you’ll build the mental strength to overcome the setbacks and challenges that life will inevitably throw at you.

Below are 12 of the most common thinking errors:

  1. Fortune Telling. This is when we predict that things will turn out badly, even if we have absolutely no proof that this will be the case. This thinking error can set us up to fail. If we believe things will go wrong, we may inadvertently act in a way that causes things to go wrong. For example, you want to invite Kalinda to go to a concert with you, but you convince yourself that she’s going to say no. So, you don’t ask her and end up missing out on an opportunity to hang out with someone you want to get to know better.

  2. Disqualifying The Positive. This is when nine good things happen and one bad thing happens, yet we only focus on the one bad thing. In other words, positive experiences don’t count as much as perceived negative experiences. Filtering out and dismissing the positive can prevent us from establishing a realistic perception of a situation. Developing a balanced outlook requires us to notice both the positive and the negative.
  3. Catastrophizing. This is when we see things as being much worse than they are. In other words, we blow things out of proportion. For example, you text a friend (who usually responds quickly). When you don’t hear back from her for a few hours, you convince yourself that she is mad at you and will never speak to you again.
  4. All-Or-Nothing Thinking. This is when we only see things as being black or white. We may take the view that we have to be perfect, or we’re a complete failure! There is no middle ground. Instead of seeing things only in extremes, we need to recognize the shades of grey.
  5. Overgeneralizing. This is when someone reaches a general conclusion based on a single incident or a single piece of evidence. If something terrible happens just once, we then expect it to happen over and over again. We may see a single, unpleasant event as part of a never-ending pattern of defeat. For example, if you bomb an exam, you conclude that you’re a terrible student who won’t get into any university.
  6. Magnifying The Negative. This is when we magnify and zoom in on the negative aspects of our day. We may declare that we had a bad day, despite having had a few positive experiences throughout the day. Or we may look back at our performance and say it was terrible because we made a single mistake. Magnifying the negative can prevent you from establishing a realistic outlook on a situation.
  7. Jumping To Conclusions. This is when we assume that we know what another person is feeling and thinking and exactly why they act the way they do. We may even believe that we can determine how others feel towards us, as though we can read their mind. For example, you may conclude that a classmate is holding a grudge against you, but don’t try to determine if this assumption is correct.
  8. Emotional Reasoning. This is when we believe that our emotions accurately reflect the reality of the situation. For example, “I feel guilty, so I must have done something bad,” or “I feel afraid, so I must be in a dangerous situation.
  9. Labelling. This is when we take an overgeneralization and put a label on it. For example, since you didn’t know the answer to a question in class, you decide that you’re stupid and a terrible student.

Here are some suggestions as to how you can learn to recognize and manage your thinking errors.

10. Replace Absolutes. Once you focus on your thoughts and recognize a pattern, consider replacing statements such as “always” with “sometimes.” For example, instead of telling yourself you are always late, instead tell yourself that we are sometimes late.

11. Label Your Behaviour. Instead of labelling and judging yourself, label the behaviour. For example, instead of  referring to yourself as “lazy” because you didn’t clean today, consider replacing the thought with “I just didn’t clean today.” One action doesn’t have to define you.

12. Focus on the Positives. Although it may be challenging, try to find at least three positive examples in each situation. For example, the pandemic allowed us to spend more time with our family, gave us time to explore new interests and made us grateful for things we had previously taken for granted. It might not feel natural at first, but eventually, it may become a spontaneous habit.

One of the greatest gifts you can give yourself is to recognize and eliminate your harmful thinking errors so that you can live your best life. When our thoughts are distorted, our emotions are, too. By becoming aware and redirecting these negative thoughts, you can significantly improve your mood and quality of life.
Excerpt from “The Spectrum Girl’s Toolkit: The Workbook for Autistic Girls.

Siena Castellon is an 18-year-old multi-award winning neurodiversity advocate, author and United Nations Young Leader for the SDGs. She is the founder of Neurodiversity Celebration Week, an international initiative that challenges stereotypes and misconceptions about neurological differences by highlighting the strengths and accomplishments of the neurodivergent community. Siena is also the author of The Spectrum Girl’s Survival Guide: How To Grow Up Awesome and Autistic and The Spectrum Girl’s Survival Toolkit: The Workbook for Autistic Girls.

NO to Bullying – YOU define YOU, by Giuliana Wheater

Glorious Gratitude – by Giuliana Wheater

Glorious Gratitude

An article by our Well-being Ambassador Giuliana Wheater and her video!

Gratitude has long been proven to MASSIVELY help with mental health. So, I could not think of anything more apt to share for this week’s therapy article as well-being ambassador for the charity.

Robert A Emmoms PhD is the leading neuroscientist in the field. He has even used the practice of gratitude to significantly help war veterans suffering from PTSD and for those with trauma.

Did you know that if you think of just 3 things that you are grateful for per day, you make new positive neurological pathways inside your brain?!!! How easy is that!!?

People who practise gratitude regularly sleep better, produce 25% more serotonin (the happy, confidence, self-esteem hormone) than those who do not, they have much better physical health, are more socially and emotionally intelligent as well as more productive and resilient to stress!!!!

Gratitude can be practised on its own or woven into scavenger hunts, games and activities for younger children, families, and different abilities.

Anyone and everyone can do it!

It is totally inclusive and can be adapted to any situation, ability, different ability, or mobility.

And it costs nothing!

So please enjoy the ideas below and those I have shared on this week’s video.

Take good care of yourselves and each other and I will see you next week. Warm wishes, Giuliana

Multi award winning therapist, teacher, author, advocate, and autism Mum

https://www.therapiesforspecialneeds.co.uk/

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